Self-Fiddler

All right, time for a little Q&A here. These are some of the most common questions and comments I’ve gotten on these photos, and my honest attempts to answer them. 1. This is ugly/gross/weird/etc. Yeah, well, you’re not wrong. I hate to be the one to break it to you, but life isn’t all sunshine and rainbows and bouncing boobs. Not everything (and in fact, I would say very little) in this world exists strictly for your personal enjoyment and gratification. Sometimes things are ugly or broken, but that doesn’t mean they don’t have value and it doesn’t mean they don’t deserve some respect. That’s a hard lesson in life, and the faster you learn it, the better off you will be. 2. It’s not art. It doesn’t belong on dA. I’m not touching this one with a ten foot pole. If these pictures get taken down, I won’t argue or complain. However, there are a couple of points I’d like to make. First of all, deviantArt is filled with pictures of naked bodies, some of them quite graphic. There are entire galleries consisting solely of genitalia. If they are art, my pictures are, too. If they aren’t, then the dA administrators need to get off of their butts and do a top to bottom clean-up of this site. Secondly, I buried these pictures under a mountain of strict Mature Content warnings. They’re close-up photographs of a vagina. I seriously doubt anyone stumbled on them purely by accident. Maybe you’re just upset because you didn’t get what you were hoping for. 3. You sure have a lot of medical problems. Yep. If anyone cares to know, I’ve also got an adrenal condition for which I take a couple of (prescribed) steroids. Between this, the VA, and recovering from Lymphoma, I’m a doctor’s wet dream and an insurance company’s worst nightmare. On the other hand, very little of it affects my day to day life, except for the fact that I somehow have to pay for everything. 4. You’re fine the way you are. You don’t need to do this “dilation” thing (whatever that is). I appreciate the sentiment here, but you’re kind of missing the point. If I want to have a normal sex life, if I want to have children (and I do want both of these things) then this is something I have to do. Which brings me to… 5. What about your sex life - or lack thereof? I’m pretty much as inexperienced sexually as it’s possible to be. Don’t bother asking for specifics of what I’ve done, I’ll save you the trouble. The answer is “no”. As for orgasms... I don't know. That sounds stupid, doesn't it? There's a lot of scar tissue, which means a lot of damaged nerves. I feel stuff, and sometimes it feels good, but it's not really what I would imagine an orgasm to be. I've had a boyfriend for several years, and he's great, and I love him, and we will probably end up married. (I don’t want to drag him too much into this, though. It doesn’t seem fair.)He knows some of this, and he'll be told more, but I've only given him a very bare-bones explanation. He's pretty much the reason I'm starting all of this over now. However, you guys here on dA have seen much more of my body then he has. It isn't just that I'm uncomfortable with my body (though I am), it's the fact that I honestly don't want to have sex until I'm married. I'm old fashioned like that. 6. What’s up with the piercing? This is kind of strange, and I have a hard time believing it, even knowing it’s true. I never got my clitoral hood pierced. I certainly didn’t go to some shop and have it done. The very thought makes me a bit queasy. I have no idea where that hole came from. The only explanation I have is that it’s also some kind of scar left over from the surgery. I don’t wear anything in it, like, ever. I don’t like the way it feels. It just seemed to me that it would make for some good pictures, and judging from your reactions, I was right. Well, that’s all I’ve got for now. Hope I didn’t get too graphic or freak anyone out too much. Still, if you’ve got anything you’d like to say or ask, go for it. Just be nice.